When hands talk
Recently, my dear friend Diego gifted me a hand-analysis session.
Today, it happened. I sat with Jo, and he shared his analysis and interpretation of my hand with me - its shape, its lines, its fingerprints.
A deep theme of his analysis is what I share in this episode.
I have been studying and comtemplating my Human Design and Gene Keys Hologenetic Profile for a while now.
I was curious today, if what Jo could see in my hand would resemble what I heard through the other systems.
It did.
And I validated every bit of it through my own lived experience.
Not facing the fear of the unknown leads to deep regret
Valour acts in the presence of fear, because it has accepted and embraced the reality of death.
Acting without being certain if I might lose or win, if I might be successful or fail - that is the underlying theme of this episode.
How to navigate the feeling of inadequacy and the seeming need to know “how” and to be certain, while journeying into the unknown.
And doing it anyway, taking the action in the direction of that which I love, which matters to be, because being alive with the knowing that I lost everything due to me not daring to act when I could - JUST because of the fear of potential loss -, living with that guilt, that regret, that means being dead while living.
Hence, “coming alive” for me is an exploration into taking risks, making the leap (or the tiny baby step) into the unknown, where I can only intuit the direction, but without knowing that I will have solid ground under my foot when I put it down.
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better.
The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood;
who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds;
who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions;
who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”
Theodore Roosevelt
Parting the sea of doubt
In my work as a coach, I support people in the deeply transformative process of individuating into mature adults.
The result of this inner work is simple and profound:
Trusting yourself no matter what.
Having your own back.
Being a stance for what you know is right.
Being in integrity within yourself.
Living well - according to your own inner compass of what “wellbeing” looks like for you.
Listening to what your heart tells you, and following its direction.
Am I “there” yet? As this episode shows: No.
I actually think there is no “end-point”. It is an infinite game.
I am on the way. It is the journey of a life time.
I’m in the arena, doing the work myself that I support people in doing for themselves.
It is everybody’s very own journey, without comparison possible.
And it takes deep trust in yourself to be a stance in this world for what you know is your truth, and then moving into the direction your heart tells you.
Like Moses, commanding the sea to part so he can lead his people into the promised land (thank you to my sweetheart for bringing this biblical story up in this context!).
Being afraid and doubting if it will work is no option, as after him comes the army of the Pharao, trying to kill him.
Behind him lies the desert, in which life cannot be lived any longer.
And so this is an archetypal journey of the soul - one of the many mythologies we get to live as human beings.
Being at peace with the not knowing, trusting our inner direction, and daring to walk the line between life and death.
Trusting that life will meet us.
Knowing that we are wanted, that we are part of live, and that it is safe to be ourselves.
Knowing that stopping here at the point of vision without action, the grey wasteland of self-doubt, guarantees a life of regret and misery, of “could have been’s”.
Moving forward requires: Self-Trust.
Onwards, fellow humans.
We are all on the same journey and need not feel alone, even though each of our individual journeys might look different.
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If you are interested in a hand-analysis yourself, check out Jo’s website (I don’t get any commissions for referring his services, I just really enjoyed his presence and depth).
And if you feel that this post and episode touched a chord in your being that you like to explore, let’s have a conversation - simply send me a message.
Thank you for listening!
I wish you a wonderful day,
Max
[Picture credit: Rainbow Token]
